Girl Talk: What Guys Don't Get

Ok, so the picture above is a scene from Family Guy (one of my favourite shows ever!) but the premise has been discussed in blogs for years. Why are there so many things about us girls that guys just don't get?

For this post, I am going to be taking some of the common (and maybe uncommon) things that guys don't understand about girls, and explaining why we do them, and why I think guys feel the way that they do. I hope that, whatever your gender, this post helps you to understand the opposite sex just a little bit better!

1) Why does asking us if we're on our period piss us off?

This is my first choice because I have seen it commented on so many YouTube videos and blog posts and I have been waiting to address it. When a girl is a bit annoyed or angry, there are 1 million different reasons. She could have had a fight with her best friend, she could have had the worst day, she could just be feeling bad. Asking her if she is on her period is 100% guaranteed to make her mood 1 thousand times worse. Most women hate this because it seems as if we can't express feelings without men thinking that, without our menstrual cycle, we'd have no feelings.

On the flip side, I think that guys feel this way because, sometimes we're in the worst mood, and other times we're the happiest people in the world. When the former happens, they don't want to accept that something bad actually happened to us, so they hope that our stress is due to PMT, which in a way, is quite sweet. On the other hand, I could be wrong and they could just be inconsiderate, who can tell?

2) When we're angry with them, why give them the silent treatment?

To be honest, sometimes, the silent treatment is the only thing stopping a woman from banging a man's head against the nearest wall. The silent treatment is a woman's way of asserting her dominance. You've done something to upset her, so she's going to upset you by allowing you to sit and worry about every thought that is running through her mind.

Guys hate the silent treatment as much as they hate talking about their feelings. They are worried about what we're going to do to them and worried that we may never speak to them again, and they don't know what to do about it because we'll be ignoring their every move.

3) When asked what's wrong, why do we always say 'nothing'

When women are upset, and are asked by men what the problem is, the most common responses are either: 'Nothing' or 'I'm fine'. The reason for this is that, for one thing, we feel like we are bothering them if we talk to them about our feelings, as we know that guys hate to discuss their own feelings. As well as this, whenever we are upset, we all believe that we have a legitimate reason, however, most of us are scared of being told that we're the person in the wrong.

From a guy's perspective, it must be annoying for us to pick and choose what we share with them. We share our good memories and our recount of each day, so why can't we let them know when something or someone is bothering us?

4) Why do we spend so much time (On the phone, in public etc) with our girlfriends?

They wonder why we spend all of our available time with our girlfriends, but complain if we express the need to spend all of our free time with them. How can we win? By calling our girlfriends to bitch about our boyfriends... and anything else that comes to our minds. Being with our friends is the only time that we can truly be 'girls'. Are boys offering to spend their free time with us and to be our shopping partners/rom-com viewers? If not, then we need to spend our time with the people who will. But this doesn't mean that we don't want to be around you, we just need time to be around people exactly like us.

On the other hand, guys may feel that we spend prolonged time with our girlfriends to avoid spending prolonged time with them. Of course, in most cases, this is completely untrue, but they can't be our everything. Sometimes we need to sit down, chill out and be girls, surrounded by girls.

5) Why are we jealous of their female friends?

When a woman enters a relationship, she 100% needs to know that, besides your mum (and maybe sister) she is the most important female in your life. If you confess to 'loving' your best female friend, she will be jealous. I'm not saying that guy's can't have female friends, but there are chances that your girlfriend may consider your female friend as a threat, which will cause them to instantly dislike each other. This isn't true of every girl, however, I believe that jealousy is a sign that she cares about her man. If she wasn't jealous of his girlfriends, and couldn't care who he goes out with and where to, there's a chance that she couldn't care less about her boyfriend either.

On the side of the guys, jealousy annoys them, mainly because they want to have female friends, and a girlfriend, and they want these two to co-exist peacefully in a world that is joined by them. If they're lucky, they may get this. But just remember, even if a girl says she isn't jealous, this doesn't mean that she's telling the truth. It more means that she's afraid hat her jealousy will cause her to lose you.

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Comment below some things that I left out. According to you, what do guys not understand about girls?